some songs remind me of times gone and soemtimes its happy and others not... I think with time the association changes or at least I try to chaneg the assoication. I reclaim these and other things. Places, resturants, songs, words... I will not be held hostage to a bad memory. I make it mine again.
One example is ringtones... I had a special ringtone for someone special and when that person exited my life I changed my default rigntone to that same one so that I wont jump when i hear it or think of that person... with time it works and I get to hear my favorite ringtone with no bad memories...
I am against leaving the things we like behind I am all for recaliming them and changing the associations when we can :)
No one should have that power over us, especially when they are no longer in our lives.
