Sheikh, sex is another form of communication. In long term relationships, i think it plays other roles than pure communication, because it begins to carry more meanings within it. You do not have to "bond" with someone to have sex with them or to have sex in order to bond. These are two different feelings and actions.

Questions:

- Why do you feel that bonding to someone whom you haven't sex with yet?

- WHy you don't feel a bonding to someone whom you are having sex with?

I wonder if love would be so important if individuals were having more sex. I mean often times what I miss is intimacy and once I engage in the act of sex and touching, I am less needing love per se.

I have the feeling confused: I think I want love, when in reality I want to be touched, held, etc.

So, would love be such a focal point in our lives if sex were more allowed less of taboo, and easier to get from persons whom you feel safe with?

Yes! Exactly my sentiments. You type in "love" in Google and that is the first result one gets! Maybe that is what love is: a woman dancing in a bikini and here we have been discussing the philosophy, science, emotions of love, when it is a woman dancing in a bikini.

What a fool i am. i should be looking for sex in a bikini and i would then have fulfilled my search on love.

What, if any, is the difference between love and sex?

i typed in "love" in Google and i got this as the first hit

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gXPkBLnZ0hk

Love it! Really, this should tell us a lot about love.

"It is strange how love supersedes everything that goes wrong." Says Denny Crain, a fictional character on Boston Legal.

i just wish people simply loved each other enough not to be so mean.

Nice question, there was some theory that said something about all motives for man being ultimately sexual. Including even parently care and brotherly love. I personally don't think that's true.

I suppose my answer would be very trivial. Love is a social phenomena. Society obligations, morales, laws, values WILL structure the feelings and their material representations (meetings, all levels of physical contact including sex, all levels of communication, etc). This will result in annoyance, anger, pain.

In societies where restrictions are very cruel you would expect pain. In more free societies, there is no need for such un-needed feelings. So, these extra feelings are erroneously associated with love, while they should be associated with a societal order that doesn't promote love :)

philter FIL-tur, noun: 1. A potion or charm supposed to cause the person taking it to fall in love. 2. A potion or charm believed to have magic power. 3. To enchant or bewitch with or as if with a magic potion or charm.

If a love potion did exist, would you use it?

Last night the conversations on love continued. A friend was telling us about another friend of his that was a big strong man and could face up to a whole town without blinking who feel in love (انغرم) and told him this:

He did not understand why drugs such as cocaine, heroin, and other addictive drugs were illegal and so much is spent on dealing with them when doctors could cure these addictions. It is falling in love that should be banned and controlled; there is no cure for it, no one could do anything to help you, or bring you out of your misery.

Then my friend added: may we stay as far away as possible from falling in love or if it should come, may it stay forever. الله لا يبلينا شره ويخليه بعيد عنا.

I think this is the beauty of Byrne's statement. A form of loving someone is to be fascinated by them; to find their lives, their charisma, their outlook onto the world worth your time and attention.

Byrne presents one form of love and does not attempt to minimize love to that one form, and i find that perhaps he is describing the most difficult forms of love; one that is independent from myself, thus valuable for its own sake.

Loving a person because she/he is present. Beautiful.

I found this quote about love, which I think is directed perfectly to answering part of the notion that alma is referring to. "Sometimes it's a form of love just to talk to somebody that you have nothing in common with and still be fascinated by their presence." David Byrne