Sarrouse, would you please explain how the laws of conservation of energy are the laws of conservation of love. i am curious as to the thought process you present.

This reply is focused on romantic love. It depends on how you define "real" and "permanent." You might love someone sexually and romantically at first and then the love might change into another form- friendship, acquaintances, etc.

Love is real by default of you having felted or acted it out, rather than because it lasted in a single form permanently.

Personally, i think it is a pity to (romantically and lustfully) love only one person throughout your life. If there is a wish i have for people is to love many and enjoy each love as it comes and changes. Being in love and the excitement of feeling loved and loving is paramount; heart breaking sometimes, but ah, what a rush.

i do think that once you love someone it is difficult to not love them, your love changes. You might not want to be in their company ever again, but generally, you do not dis-love someone. Having said that, there are always exceptions to the rules.

So, to answer your question- i hope it is not true that in order for love to be real it needs to be permanent. i hope that we love more than once.

33- وهذا يقودنا إلى "حالة نفسية" في ظاهرة الحب، هي "حالة الحيرة". وهي وإن كانت تتمثل في كونها أمرا معرفيا، لكنها في الحقيقة ناتج نفسي في جوهره مشفوع بالرغبة في أن يكون المحب يحبنا، وتخوّف من أن لا يكون ذلك حقيقيّا. الحيرة تمثل أزمة في الحركة صوب المحبوب نابعة من الاندفاع إليه واندفاع عنه بفعل الكرامة أو تخوفا من أن تثير حركتنا  صدودا منه عنا. ونحن نلمس في حياتنا كيف يتم حلّ هذا التناقض في الاتجاهين: إما الاندفاع وإعلام المحبوب بمشاعرنا [حين يتغلب اندفاعنا إليه] أو الاندفاع عنه إلى حد الامتناع التام عن لقائه حين يتغلب خوفنا من صدوده. وبين هذين الحدين نجد العديد من الحالات الوسطية أيضا.

34- هذا التناقض مبعث ألم، بل وألم عميق كما نقلته لنا قصائد الشعراء وروايات الكتاب، ممن عاشوا هذا التناقض الممض أو تخيلوه على الأقل. ولعل من الطريف هنا أن نلاحظ التبدل في شعور الحب من حيث كونه في الأساس مصدر فرح وبهجة ليغدو مصدر ألم وعذاب.

Sheikh, sex is another form of communication. In long term relationships, i think it plays other roles than pure communication, because it begins to carry more meanings within it. You do not have to "bond" with someone to have sex with them or to have sex in order to bond. These are two different feelings and actions.

Questions:

- Why do you feel that bonding to someone whom you haven't sex with yet?

- WHy you don't feel a bonding to someone whom you are having sex with?

I wonder if love would be so important if individuals were having more sex. I mean often times what I miss is intimacy and once I engage in the act of sex and touching, I am less needing love per se.

I have the feeling confused: I think I want love, when in reality I want to be touched, held, etc.

So, would love be such a focal point in our lives if sex were more allowed less of taboo, and easier to get from persons whom you feel safe with?

Yes! Exactly my sentiments. You type in "love" in Google and that is the first result one gets! Maybe that is what love is: a woman dancing in a bikini and here we have been discussing the philosophy, science, emotions of love, when it is a woman dancing in a bikini.

What a fool i am. i should be looking for sex in a bikini and i would then have fulfilled my search on love.

What, if any, is the difference between love and sex?

i typed in "love" in Google and i got this as the first hit

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gXPkBLnZ0hk

Love it! Really, this should tell us a lot about love.