@ Shalabieh: I know we aren't meant to be stuck with 1 person for the rest of our lives we are not wired that way, but when you are in a relationship then you should be enough for both of you, it is a matter of having your cake and eating it too. Shop out go hungry home is a way, we are supposed to be rational human beings and I say to you "MIND OVER MATTER" no excuses for infidelity control your hormones is another way of putting it. AND NO NO NO IT IS NEVER COMPLICATED it is rather simple LOVE ME OR LEAVE ME, but don't you ever disrespect me and cheat on me, that's a dealbreaker and reasons for justifiable Homocide.

@Mamod: Second life isn't like porno, it is like actually being in the cyber world and screwing around, its not like fantasising, and reading , it is in real-time streaming action, you create a persona and you give it a life etc, look it up and see what "Second life" is allabout if you aren't connected to it. I erased my avatar there it was getting too heavy.

And again I repeat "LOVE ME OR LEAVE ME ..." & It is damned not complicated... If people want to rut around like animals in heat well let them but keep that kind of love away from me...

SXTZ - Walid, you're complicated, I mean sophisticated, I really enjoyed reading your comment, it tells what I wanted to say but in a writing style that I can't handle :)

isn't this the same as when the spouse watch a porno? he/she doesn't involve in the action but still it does hurt the relation, and secondlife is even worse, while watching adult movies get your eyes and ears attention secondlife gets the attention of all your senses, it express your own actions and what you want to do, it reflects your personality and your daily life, for me it's not a secondlife, it's a parallellife especially when it comes to relationships, more specifically when it comes to marrigae relationship.

Infidelity whether in thought or deed is just that infidelity!
Whichever way you try and dissect it it boils down to the same thing one person was unfaithful, and it doesn't matter that it was cyber or not! It Still INFIDELITY!

It shouldn't be justified in any way. It can't be justified.
Reading stories and fantasisng is different here in second life he was actually acting them out, albeit online in the cyberworld but he was still acting them out.

Maybe I just see things in black and white, but when it comes to relationships it is black & white, and the one thing I will smack somebody for is when they use the terms "It's complicated!" Hell no its not!

i don't know if this should be considered "cheating," he did not even know the person he was sexing. He himself really was not touching anyone. His imaginary self was.

Should we not be allowed to read stories or watch movies that make us fantasizes about sex with someone else?

Okay, while this is funny on some level, it is still cheating, isn't it?