One of the most difficult things I found in life was to love myself. When we are filled with negative thoughts & words we keep repeating them, they are embedded in our system. Default value :-) Most of the time we are not even aware of them. Examples, I won't ever find love. Who would love me I am ... My hair is ugly. I am fat. I am a person that hurts others, bla bla bla.  I can list more ;-) but I will spare you.

Emotional abuse is much worse than physical. It hurts deep & touch our core & essence. Its sequence could last a life time. Side effects of it; is if I don't love myself who would love me. And thats a reason of why we allow & accept abuse.

For your question: Yes we can learn to love ourselves.

This is a book I found helpful to start with. Not to read but to go through http://www.csulb.edu/~tstevens/

Tips that comes to my mind:

Whenever a negative thought pops up to be replaced it with a positive one. But first to be aware of them. Of what labels we give ourselves.

Hang out with people who gives positive feeling wal 3aksu sa7ee7

So, by using examples of love shared by people, we're able to recreate it within ourselves?

So if self-love is learned, then whom do we learn it from? Can we unlearn the self-dislike and relearn self-love? How do we learn that we deserve love?

Ok. Do you think that self-love is a learned behavior/feeling or an innate one? If it is a learned one then if we accept little love because we were never taught the true meaning of love, if it is innate then ... well, maybe we should be all accepting lots of love because we thrive once we have it and wither when we do not.

For many, agony in love is the highest form of love they can get. The more abused the more they feel love. The more pain the more love. give it to mass misunderstanding of what loving relationships should be. Sad,

One of my grandmothers advice was this: If your partner hits you.... Leave! But retaliation can bring a message across.
Hitting back will only escalate the matter and do not even answer back, and if they beg and plead for you to take them back DO NOT! Because its a sign of a abuser.

Violence is never justified!