sure in love to fight to be loved 

from a guy who've been through both.. to love someone who don't love you is a true torture.. but it's always a good thing to be loved by people, even if you don't love them back.. there you go

The ecstasy of love happens for me when I am in love with someone who's also in love with me.

Will I look pathetic if I say neither?

I didn't experience any form, if you mean love to a particular person, however I love many things, in fact I love every thing, I love people and don't wait to be loved back so I go with "to love", and if this unconditional love I give fruited back with some one loves me, then Wow.  :) but for now, just "to love".